Podcast Episode 2: ‘It’s Deeper Than That’ Part 1 Reflections

Meeting Paris for the first time, I was so impressed by her whole demeanor. She was vibrant and full of energy, and there was never a dull moment with her. Paris' thinking and remarks were ahead of her time. She said so many things that I would not expect a 16-year-old even to fathom. She has endured difficult situations, and despite everything, she was able to rise above it. I had to continually remind myself that Paris is only a junior in high school, but her maturity and wisdom is beyond her years.

Paris has also experienced something nearly everyone around the world has; she had to let a friend go to keep her inner peace. Often within friendships, one friend may be carrying the relationship more than the other. In all relationships, both romantic or platonic, each friend should be pulling their weight evenly. Paris was in a friendship that caused her exhaustion, sadness, confusion, and loneliness. After much contemplation and soul searching, she realized that her friend did not have the same “match of heart” as she did. Her friend, unfortunately, was fighting her demons with depression and possible self-harm. Paris quickly recognized this situation was bigger than her, and she could not remain quiet about a friend who was destroying themself. I was so proud to hear that Paris mustered up the courage to speak to a trusted adult and report her friend struggling. This action showed me that Paris has a big heart and has everyone’s best interest in mind.

Reflecting on Paris’ story, I see myself on both sides of the conflict. In my teenage years, I was the friend who self-harmed and had suicidal ideations. I was also a friend who looked out for others when they struggled with their mental health.

I enjoyed hearing from Paris. Her story was relevant, refreshing, and a reminder to adults and teens that we need to keep on checking on our friend’s well-being even if this means that the friendship will end.  

Shian Earlington, Contributor